Knowing your worth is a constant topic of conversation. Whether I am talking to friends about relationships or co-workers about a raise, it all comes back to that. What I find, is we all know our worth but we do not demand it. I say we because I count myself amongst that group.
As outspoken and confident as I seem, I have spent years allowing people to treat me well below my worth. I accepted the first offer on a job even if it was well below my market value because some is better than none. I allowed friends and guys to take the driver seat in relationships because I was afraid to be alone. If you asked me, of course, I knew my worth. I just wasn’t in a place to act on it.
The first step in acting on your worth is getting over your fear. That’s the doozie. Each and every one of us is afraid of something. We’re afraid of being rejected, hurt, told no, and ultimately that we aren’t great as we hope we are. For me, it always comes back to not being as smart or as capable as I think I am. With that bubbling just below the surface, asking for what I am worth is damn near impossible. How can you ask for what you are worth if you don’t truly believe it?
At the end of the day, belief is what it all comes down to. Knowing your worth and believing you are capable of receiving it. Once you believe you are worthy, no person or thing can sway you into accepting less. I believe it, that’s why I’m asking for my money these days.