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#MonthlyMotivation | F*ck Being a Better Blogger

By Anastasia Nicole

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Google the phrase better blogger. I’ll wait. Chances are, if you did, you were inundated with listicles and posts full of advice on how to grow your following from zero to 100 real quick. These blog aficionados may have even tried to sell you a class or two where they teach you the best times to post on social, what you should be saying to bait your readers and SEO tricks for dummies. While most of the advice is harmless if not completely beneficial, after spending the past 3 months on an endless “be a better blogger” merry go round, I am convinced you do not need any of it.
In the 10 years that I have been blogging, I have discovered 4 truths that will make you look at these blog advice posts with fresh eyes. Actually, in my experience, these 4 things are all you need to know about blogging. I can’t guarantee you’ll double your following or land on the cover of InStyle, but they will give you peace of mind and keep you from losing your shit the next time you have a post due. So keep reading for my take on why being a better blogger is some straight bullshit.
You can only do what you can do, period. I have a full-time job, do freelance work,  and manage my blog, all while trying to be the best daughter, sister, friend, human I can be. It can be crazy exhausting, and means I sometimes would rather binge watch Dr. Who than write a blog post. And that’s perfectly fine. And although I do batch process everything, sometimes I just want to spend my Sunday at brunch with my girls, not writing. That’s fine too. I’m not Hermione Granger, and neither are you.
Comparison is a waste of time. Dirty secret #1 about blogging is that most of the top bloggers were already wealthy and connected to the industry before they started blogging. I know plenty blogger back stories and trust me having a mom who can bankroll your shoe fetish, a past life as a writer at Vogue or People Style Watch, and a day job at a showroom or as a PR girl goes a long way to linking you with brands, landing you features, and helping you to grow your following. I’m not saying these people don’t work hard, I’m saying they had a head start. I’m also including myself in this lot because my current job and ones in the past have all afforded me access to people and places you can’t get to if you aren’t connected.
Know your sources. I have taken webinar after webinar and purchased all kinds of blog planners in the past year, what I didn’t do was check out what I was buying and who I was buying it from before I hit purchase. The vast majority of women selling these products are stellar bloggers who make great money selling you products. Unless you want to sell a bunch of blog planners and classes, keep it moving and save your money. About 99% of what they teach is found for free on the Google.
Blogging isn’t everything. I love blogging and everything it has afforded me in the past ten years. It’s a great creative outlet, has allowed me a chance to hone my writing skills, and given me access to some pretty cool events and products. But even with all that, it’s not everything. I am way more than my blog and so are you. So put down the DSLR, back away from the Gram, and go out and get your life. It’ll make your posts that much better. 


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On any given day she is 10% Kardashian, 20% Miranda Priestly and 40% Wednesday Addams.

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16 Thoughts to #MonthlyMotivation | F*ck Being a Better Blogger

  1. pia Reply January 4, 2016 at 2:26 pm

    this article is one of the best I’ve read about blogging! I love it, because you are one of the first ones to write so openly and true!
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  2. Elysia Reply January 4, 2016 at 3:30 pm

    I’d like to preorder my Time Turner now.

    Agree with a lot of this! With a full-time job, sometimes I need to step back and remember that blogging is supposed to be a fun, creative outlet and not an additional source of stress.

    Almost always, our unfiltered lives without the lens are the ones we should prioritize.

    • mm
      Anastasia Nicole Reply January 6, 2016 at 12:33 am

      Exactly girl! No one looks back on their life and thinks “Oh if only I posted that piece on how to wear a white coat.” LMAO

  3. Lisa Reply January 5, 2016 at 8:47 pm

    I SO love this post! Like you, I have a very busy life outside blogging. I used to get all knotted up that I wasn’t sticking to a posting schedule, or that I didn’t always post at least once a week. Now, I have just accepted that my blogging will have to fit around my life, and not try to fit my life around my blogging. I’m definitely not Hermione Granger :-D. xx

    • mm
      Anastasia Nicole Reply January 6, 2016 at 12:37 am

      I was beginning to feel like a bad person because my numbers dropped one week or I missed a post. It was either stress myself out every Sunday or live my life and accept that I am not destined to be the next Man Repeller…not this week at least. If only we had Hermione’s time turner. LOL.

  4. IMAN Reply January 8, 2016 at 3:44 am

    Ana I absolutely loved this post. For real, I’ve been smiling from start to finish because the way you turned that topic around and your writing style are so refreshing. I can completely relate to it, especially point 1 as it is super easy to get carried away and try to do it all a 100%, which is simply not sustainable.
    Much love!


    • mm
      Anastasia Nicole Reply January 10, 2016 at 11:10 pm

      Thanks Iman! It’s not realistic to think we can do everything and do it all well, yet everywhere we turn that’s exactly what we’re being told to do. 2016 is the year of getting real. LOL.

  5. Akaleistar Reply January 10, 2016 at 10:35 pm

    Love your thoughts on this! I want to grow my blog, but I, also, don’t want my blog to be my life.

    • mm
      Anastasia Nicole Reply January 10, 2016 at 11:11 pm

      Exactly! Even if you want to be a pro blogger you still have to find a balance between your blog and your life.

  6. Andhika Reply February 4, 2016 at 3:58 pm

    go out and get your life..
    I like that phrase Anastasia..
    Hope you will be a successful fashion blogger!

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