By now, we’ve all heard that failure is our greatest teacher. Or have we? Despite the whole “embrace failure” movement, fear of failure still has us in a headlock. No matter what they say, we are all still fighting failing at all costs. Yes, I said we because I have a fear of failure just like the rest of you. You know, because society.
We were all conditioned that failing makes you a failure. That couldn’t be farther from the truth. First, life is not a race, there are no clear-cut winners and losers. What feels like success for one person could be quite the opposite for another. Second, failure is not the opposite of success it’s a part of the process. When you are learning to walk, you stumble, tumble, and fall. You don’t fall because you’re a failure, you fall because you’re still trying to work out what walking is about. After a while, you’re aces at this walking thing and figure out running, and eventually walking in heels if you’re like me. Thing is, you had to fall to figure all of that out. That’s what failing is, the stumbling blocks that teach you how to succeed.
If we know all this, why are so many of us stuck running the numbers to be 100% certain we won’t fail when we take a leap of faith? Because we mistakenly think you can prevent failing. You can’t. Even with the best plan money can buy, shit can still hit the fan and leave you crying, broken on the floor. That’s how life works. You can either run from it or learn from it. It’s that simple. The thing is, when you’re running you aren’t learning the hard lessons you’re just spinning your wheels. Eventually, you get tired of running and have to face your fear head on.
When you finally face your fear of failure, what do you learn? Failing isn’t the worst thing you can do. Not only that, but you won’t fail as hard as you thought you would. Sure you may have to move back home with your parents or sell your Louboutins to pay rent, but at least you live to fail another day.