Failure is Your Only Option

embrace failure

By now, we’ve all heard that failure is our greatest teacher. Or have we? Despite the whole “embrace failure” movement, fear of failure still has us in a headlock. No matter what they say, we are all still fighting failing at all costs. Yes, I said we because I have a fear of failure just like the rest of you. You know, because society.

We were all conditioned that failing makes you a failure. That couldn’t be farther from the truth. First, life is not a race, there are no clear-cut winners and losers. What feels like success for one person could be quite the opposite for another. Second, failure is not the opposite of success it’s a part of the process. When you are learning to walk, you stumble, tumble, and fall. You don’t fall because you’re a failure, you fall because you’re still trying to work out what walking is about. After a while, you’re aces at this walking thing and figure out running, and eventually walking in heels if you’re like me. Thing is, you had to fall to figure all of that out. That’s what failing is, the stumbling blocks that teach you how to succeed.

If we know all this, why are so many of us stuck running the numbers to be 100% certain we won’t fail when we take a leap of faith? Because we mistakenly think you can prevent failing. You can’t. Even with the best plan money can buy, shit can still hit the fan and leave you crying, broken on the floor. That’s how life works. You can either run from it or learn from it. It’s that simple. The thing is, when you’re running you aren’t learning the hard lessons you’re just spinning your wheels. Eventually, you get tired of running and have to face your fear head on.

When you finally face your fear of failure, what do you learn? Failing isn’t the worst thing you can do. Not only that, but you won’t fail as hard as you thought you would. Sure you may have to move back home with your parents or sell your Louboutins to pay rent, but at least you live to fail another day.




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    May 1, 2017 at 7:43 pm

    Sometimes failing really can be so hard. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger right!

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    May 2, 2017 at 12:01 am

    Love that cami with the double denim! 🙂

    Such good advice too! 🙂 Failure is an event, not a person, and there are always things we can learn from it, we shouldn’t let our fears stop us from doing something.

    Hope you had a wonderful weekend and are having a good start to the week 🙂

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      Anastasia Nicole
      May 2, 2017 at 9:15 am

      Exactly! Failing is something that happens not something that defines you!

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    Kirsty Dee
    May 2, 2017 at 8:14 am

    Love this, failure is necessary 🙂

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    Erica @ Black Bloggers Network
    May 2, 2017 at 8:27 am

    I loved this article. It was so inspirational. When you’re able to move past the fear of failure, anything is possible! Here’s to walking in 2017

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    Jasmin N
    May 2, 2017 at 4:26 pm

    Failing can be hard, but it’s a necessity. If you never fail, you won’t learn important things about yourself. Great post!

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    May 2, 2017 at 5:33 pm

    I agree with this. Somehow, although we know failure is another opportunity to learn something and avoid making same mistakes, we still fear failure itself. I think it may be innate, but after each failure, we realize it only made us stronger.

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    May 2, 2017 at 10:08 pm

    Love this post really makes you think!

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    May 2, 2017 at 10:37 pm

    Very informative article.I suppose in reality, we are all wired differently, hence, we handle failure differently.

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    May 2, 2017 at 11:28 pm

    Excellent post. I couldn’t agree more with you. It’s always easy to run away but that teaches you nothing. When you fail the best thing you can do is to learn from it so that you won’t fail in a same way as easily. 🙂

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    Camesha | Mama Motivator
    May 4, 2017 at 12:41 am

    I have learned over time to look at failure as just feedback. Look at what didn’t work, learn from it and keep pushing! Great post!

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    May 4, 2017 at 5:39 pm

    Failing taught me to laugh at myself and not take life so seriously. Failing has also taught me what NOT to do to succeed the next time I try. For all the issues I DO have, I have never feared failure, for some reason. I have always been one to jump in head first and figure it out. It might be the long way through life, (with all my trial and error) but it’s taught me so much!

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    May 5, 2017 at 3:35 am

    We all fail. We all went down at least once. But that’s how we learn 🙂

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