Lessons for My 25 Year Old Self

lessons for my 25 year old self

Twenty-five is the most unrealistic deadline to set for your goals, unless your goal happens to be finishing college and turning 25. The average 25-year-old is still trying to work out who they are versus who society wants them to be. Their lives are less like Sex and the City and more like Girls because Girls is actually about 25-year-olds. Be that as it is, everyone in their early 20’s sees 25 as the age to be married, financially stable, and working in your dream career. Boy, is that a set up for depression and anxiety.

Looking back on 25 seven years later, that was one of the best years of my life. For me, that entire decade was filled with adventure, mistakes, laughs, and ended up shaping who I am today. None of that could have happened if I was married, stable, and living my dream life at 25.  It took chaos for me to discover what I was truly made of, and that is probably the same for you. Sadly your parents would never tell you that unless your parents are Ms. Frizzle.

To help you get through one of the most defining decades of your life, I’ve pulled together a few life lessons for my 25-year-old self that are sure to help you. These are the things my parents didn’t tell me until I was almost 30, or that I figured out along the way. And trust me, you will figure out so much along the way.

It’s OK to not have it all figured out. Actually, you’ll never have it all figured out so let it go. 

No one learned anything from being perfect, learn to fail and fail epically. 

What other people think of you, good or bad, is not your business.

Heartbreak only feels like it will kill you. It will make you stronger. 

Being an adult means being your own parent and your own best friend. 

Never apologize for who you are. 

There are no deadlines in life. As long as you are alive, you will keep learning, keep growing, and have the opportunity to choose again. 

Photo: Jordan Taylor Photo


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    March 15, 2017 at 2:38 pm

    Funny how we start to learn such truths about life as the years go by. There are so many things I’d tell my 25 year old self that are very similar to yours! My next thing would be something about not needing a man. I spent so much time in my twenties hunting for a husband I feel I missed out on some way better stuff. I got married just 2 months shy of my 30th birthday. lol. A whole decade wasted trying to find a man and, ironically, the many I married I met when I was 16. *insert eye roll here* Maybe we’ll have wonderful experiences to share with our daughters one day (and hopefully, they’ll listen). Thanks for sharing!

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      Anastasia Nicole
      March 15, 2017 at 7:35 pm

      YES!!! As women we are so focused on being married by 25 or 30 that we spend our 20s searching for “Mr Right” and settling for Mr. Right Now instead of living our lives and chasing our dreams. The right guy always shows up when you’re ready.

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    Nicole Lynn
    March 15, 2017 at 2:55 pm

    Love this post! I just turned 26 and definitely feel like I need to have my dream life already settled. But I’m slowly letting go of that notion and letting a little more chaos into my life! Thank so much for sharing this!

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      Anastasia Nicole
      March 15, 2017 at 7:37 pm

      Right on! Don’t forget, the journey is just as important as the destination so keep your eyes on your dreams and have fun!

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    March 15, 2017 at 3:55 pm

    What a great article. I am 26 years old and I hear more and more often: “so when are you guys getting married?”, “you bought a cat? you should make a baby.” I open facebook with my morning coffee and almost every other post is about kids, pregnancy, getting married, getting engaged. I used to be really annoyed but that but I learned not to compare my life to someone else’s. Everyone make their own choices and live the life they own way.

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      Anastasia Nicole
      March 15, 2017 at 7:39 pm

      Everyone’s life has its own timeline that has nothing to do with yours so tell everyone to chill out. You and your guy will get married and have kids when the time is right for you two and not a second sooner ; )

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    Emma Connor
    March 15, 2017 at 4:53 pm

    This was such a nice post! I’m turning 25 later this month and am so worried about not having my life fully sorted! This has helped me relax a little! 🙂

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      Anastasia Nicole
      March 15, 2017 at 7:49 pm

      Happy Birthday! Hope you have a ton of fun and take some time to relax. Everything has a way of sorting itself out if you stay focused on your goals. (I know it sounds cliché but it’s true.)

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    Stacey Demrigian
    March 15, 2017 at 8:51 pm

    this post was great… i have a few things to write to my 25year self

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    Prerna Garg
    March 15, 2017 at 10:04 pm

    All the points are so true. I wish we knew all this back then. Thanks for this trip down nostalgia 🙂

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    March 16, 2017 at 3:58 am

    I think what I learnt the most in my adult life so far is not giving a hoot about what others think of me. It’s so damn liberating 🙂

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      Anastasia Nicole
      March 16, 2017 at 8:49 am

      Preach! I live by the rule that “what other people think of you is nobody’s business”.

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    Борка Шаула
    March 16, 2017 at 5:00 pm

    These lessons are so true! Society puts a certain pressure on us but until we are happy with something it’s good for us. You have to live your life the way you feel like you should so you could know one day what to expect and to actually something. Biggest mistakes our the best lessons.
    BS, xx |

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    March 17, 2017 at 9:02 pm

    No one learned anything from being perfect. YES GIRL! So true! Every failure is a really good lesson.

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      Anastasia Nicole
      April 11, 2017 at 10:06 pm

      That’s a whole post coming in the next few weeks! Perfection is a disease, to quote Bey!

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    Jasmin N
    May 11, 2017 at 1:45 pm

    Oh this is such a great post idea! It’s funny how we seem to learn things when they’ve already happened, but hey – that’s life! Glad to hear that being 25 was one of your best years 🙂

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    May 12, 2017 at 6:05 am

    Great post and really nice lessons to live a life, i am still to figure it out my misses and hits and i will be 25 soon xo

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    Rebecca Brianne
    May 12, 2017 at 9:52 am

    This is such a nice read! I’m 21 years now and if I told you I didn’t have a checklist of things I need to accomplish by 25 I would be lying to you. I definitely have swings of anxiety that things are not moving in the direction/pace that they should be. The minute I turned 21 all of a sudden I had this “you’re not getting any younger!” freakout. Who knows what that will be like at 25!


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    May 12, 2017 at 3:37 pm

    This is food for thought, great article. Well, too my 25 years old Self I would tell to listen carefully with that little voice of the heart because it has some good advises. And to have more courage to follow what I feel and to fight those who don’t let me to do so.

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    May 15, 2017 at 1:57 am

    I think at 25 you don’t have to have everything figured out yet. However it’s good to set some goals and see where you’d like to end up when you’re 30 for example. But there’s no stress and you can always change plans. Great article!

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