New Year, Same Monochrome Me

New Year Same Monochrome Dressing Me

A new year provides the perfect blank slate for self-improvement. We spend hours deciding on what new habits we want to cultivate over the next 12 months. After, 6 weeks or so, we forget the resolutions and get back to being the same old us. Instead of fronting, I’ve decided to skip the resolutions for 2017.

I haven’t made a single New Year’s resolution since 2008. That doesn’t mean I haven’t been setting goals and intentions, it means I haven’t been setting myself up for failure.

In the 32 years I’ve been alive, grand, sweeping life changes, just have not been my style. Not only are they too large of a departure from my norm to stick, they ae often things I don’t really want to do. For example, we I got “spiritual” all the girls were giving up sugar so I said I would give up sugar. Lies! I love cakes and pies too much, that lasted, maybe, two days. Or the time I said I would stop going to Starbucks to save money, then downloaded the app two weeks later. Or even better, the year I decided to give up monochrome dressing. Never happened.

You see, monochrome dressing, much like coffee and sweets, is a part of who I am. An all black outfit, as simple as it is, is how I express both my vulnerability and unmesswithableness. It’s the same thing with my grande latte. Both are signaling to the world that I did not come to play with you heauxs. (Both things are also massive “city girl” clichés, but I’m good with that.)

While I’m all about self-improvement, changing who you are and how you express that is not a new year must do. Unless you’re some kind of serial killer or something, who you are is enough.

New Year Same Monochrome Dressing Me

New Year Same Monochrome Dressing Me

New Year Same Monochrome Dressing Me

Photos: Jordan Taylor Photo




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    January 5, 2017 at 7:21 pm

    Never change! ??

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    Sincerely Shanti
    January 6, 2017 at 1:13 pm

    You make standing on those rocks so effortless haha, good post!

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    Nia Langley
    January 6, 2017 at 5:14 pm

    I’m living for great monochrome looks these days; and black is my favourite shade. Happy New Year!

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    January 6, 2017 at 5:18 pm

    Well, you keep wearing your all black everything while you sip that Starbucks. You aren’t obligated to change to fit the norm of a society that isn’t changing for you.
    I can’t even remember the last time I made a New Year’s resolution. I came to the understanding that the difference between December 31, 2016 and January 1, 2017 is only one day. Actually, it’s one minute. I saw no point in claiming “New Year, New Me” if my mind hadn’t changed way before that one minute had come and passed. If I didn’t care that I was still 30 lbs overweight back in May and didn’t do anything about it. Then, I won’t care even harder in January of this year. I mean I care because I already lost 80 lbs, but this plateau of this last 30 lbs is annoying. But not that annoying! CTHU!

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      Anastasia Nicole
      January 7, 2017 at 10:10 pm

      YAS! People do not get that for change to happen you have to change your mindset first and like you said none of us are obligated to change to fit the norms of a society that isn’t changing for us. Good luck with that last 30 and keep living for you boo!

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