Early one morning while scrolling through Facebook I saw a photo of one of my friends. Ordinarily, I would have hit like and kept scrolling but something made me pause. The moment I did, I was able to read the caption and see that my friend had passed. Not only had she died, but she’d died almost a month ago. Scrolling through her page I saw post after post commemorating her life. How did I not notice this? I vaguely remembered a notification about a page being turned into a memorial. I’d liked a photo her husband posted not long after she’d died giving details about her funeral. At no point did I connect these blink and you miss it moments with anyone dying, let alone her. Why? Because I stopped using social media with intention.
Using social media with intention goes way beyond knowing your why when it comes to each platform. It is about being an active user who is fully conscious about the content they are posting and, more importantly, consuming. Are the people you follow posting true, beautiful content that is uplifting or are they feeding you a diet of fake news, hate, and petty drama? If the answer is the later, you may want to rethink your approach to social media.
Indiscriminate media consumption is making you sick, angry, and depressed. Former gossip blogger and EIC at XO Necole, Necole Kane, recently dropped a Twitter thread touching on this exact fact. She spoke about how her daily habit of digging for and dishing celebrity dirt left her with secondhand PTSD in her therapist’s office. And it’s not just Necole. Mornings, where I start my day mindlessly scrolling through my news feeds I feel myself grow angrier by the minute. Whether it’s people talking mad shit or hateful comments or something new and crazy coming from the president, post after post leaves me shook in the worst way. Being someone who values her vibe, I have to make a change and so do you.
Since neither one of us can control what other people post, we have to become conscious consumers of social media. We have to be intentional when we curate our news feeds and breathe out all the bullshit clogging them up. Instead of thinking of myself as a fan or a follower of someone’s work, my new move is to be the curator of each platform I am on. That means carefully choosing people who align with my vision and my vibration to like, subscribe to, and follow. Think of it as cultivating your digital tribe. The people who match your vibe will get a like, and the people that don’t aren’t for you.
We are constantly inundated with so many messages that have a direct effect on our well-being, why not make sure the ones you can control are nourishing.