Social Media Is Killing Your Vibe

using social media with intention

Early one morning while scrolling through Facebook I saw a photo of one of my friends. Ordinarily, I would have hit like and kept scrolling but something made me pause. The moment I did, I was able to read the caption and see that my friend had passed. Not only had she died, but she’d died almost a month ago. Scrolling through her page I saw post after post commemorating her life. How did I not notice this? I vaguely remembered a notification about a page being turned into a memorial. I’d liked a photo her husband posted not long after she’d died giving details about her funeral. At no point did I connect these blink and you miss it moments with anyone dying, let alone her. Why? Because I stopped using social media with intention.

Using social media with intention goes way beyond knowing your why when it comes to each platform. It is about being an active user who is fully conscious about the content they are posting and, more importantly, consuming. Are the people you follow posting true, beautiful content that is uplifting or are they feeding you a diet of fake news, hate, and petty drama? If the answer is the later, you may want to rethink your approach to social media.

Indiscriminate media consumption is making you sick, angry, and depressed. Former gossip blogger and EIC at XO Necole, Necole Kane, recently dropped a Twitter thread touching on this exact fact. She spoke about how her daily habit of digging for and dishing celebrity dirt left her with secondhand PTSD in her therapist’s office.  And it’s not just Necole. Mornings, where I start my day mindlessly scrolling through my news feeds I feel myself grow angrier by the minute. Whether it’s people talking mad shit or hateful comments or something new and crazy coming from the president, post after post leaves me shook in the worst way. Being someone who values her vibe, I have to make a change and so do you.

Since neither one of us can control what other people post, we have to become conscious consumers of social media. We have to be intentional when we curate our news feeds and breathe out all the bullshit clogging them up. Instead of thinking of myself as a fan or a follower of someone’s work, my new move is to be the curator of each platform I am on. That means carefully choosing people who align with my vision and my vibration to like, subscribe to, and follow. Think of it as cultivating your digital tribe. The people who match your vibe will get a like, and the people that don’t aren’t for you.

We are constantly inundated with so many messages that have a direct effect on our well-being, why not make sure the ones you can control are nourishing.

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    July 7, 2017 at 7:27 pm

    I am also guilty of scrolling and consuming without much thought. Thankfully I am intentional about keeping my newsfeed positive overall and can’t handle people who are negative and hatefilled all the time!

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    Niki McNeill
    July 8, 2017 at 7:20 am

    This is so good Ana. I really try to monitor & limit my social media consumption because I find it weighing on me sometimes!

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      Anastasia Nicole
      July 10, 2017 at 10:01 am

      Social media will really have you angry and depressed. That’s why so many young people are having mental health issues, they need to disconnect to reconnect to the real world.

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    July 24, 2017 at 3:56 pm

    I only connect with people who I like and who have a positive effect on my mind, just like in real life. I don’t have time for show-offs or people who make me feel bad even if they don’t mean to! It doesn’t all have to be unicorns and moonbeams, but it has to be worthy. xx

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      Anastasia Nicole
      July 25, 2017 at 10:30 am

      Exactly! We spend too much time on social media to follow people who are negative or even unintentionally make us feel bad. Your feed is your safe space not theirs.

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